Do you ever sit and think about what might be holding you back from a more successful and fulfilling life? Is it a lack of knowledge? Do you not have enough drive? Most likely, those two things aren’t the case. In fact, it’s probably your own fears that are holding you back the most! Let’s make this the year you start facing your fears head on, starting with the five common ones we listed below.
1. Being yourself.
We listed this one first for a reason. You might be guilty of this fear without even realizing it! Anytime you worry what others are thinking of you, it means you’re keeping yourself from being completely authentic. Think about it this way…You can play it safe and conform to the crowd around you, or you can grow into a confident leader who seizes their own wants and desires. The choice is yours.
2. Saying “no.”
When was the last time you agreed to something, and then immediately regretted it afterwards? These situations happen all the time, and we’ll admit we’ve had our own fair share of moments like this, too. More times than not, you won’t be letting anyone down if you simply say “no.” Sometimes you just need to put your needs first! Otherwise, you’ll end up over-committing to responsibilities, agreeing to things that don’t make you happy, and keeping yourself from spending time on matters that better serve yourself.
We hate the word “failure.” Why? Because the word makes it seem like you’ve been defeated, yet that’s so far from the truth! If anything, it’s a valuable learning experience and fuel to try even harder next time. Having a fear of failing also leaves you with a mind full of “what ifs.” You can’t succeed if you’re too scared to even try!
4. Asking for help.
This is a big one. Do you ever catch yourself trying to wing something, or even giving up, because you fear you’ll appear inept if you ask for help? Not only are you missing out on learning new things and gaining valuable insights, but you’re creating stress for no reason! Remember: it’s okay to be humble and admit you need help.
It definitely stings a bit when you have to sit and listen about where you can improve. Does this mean you’re not good enough? Does it mean you’ve disappointed others? No, to both…But we can definitely understand why it feels this way. The trick is to remember that everybody is a work in progress, so constructive criticism isn’t an attack on you — It’s a necessary part of learning and growing no matter who you are. And when the criticism isn’t constructive? Have the confidence in yourself to know your own worth, and use it as motivation to keep trying your best.
What fears are you working on overcoming? Share your thoughts, advice, and inputs in the comments below.